Changes and Growth (phone sex and life)

ON Aug 10th, we lost the attorney I’d worked for, for over 20 years.  We, being his family and our law family.  He told his daughter who was staying with him for the month that he was leaving.  After about 20 minutes, she noticed his truck still in the drive, so she went out to check on him and he’d suffered a heart attack.

I began working for “M” in 2001 after 911 and having recently graduated from university. 

On alimony for the last 2 years of college, I was working part-time for a Family Law attorney.  A very smart attorney who is now the Commonwealth’s Attorney working a special unit to prosecute crimes against women and children. 

During my senior year at Maryland, I’d left the her because I was also dealing with my mother dying from cancer and the stress was too much. 

School was all I could handle.

I was lucky enough to be picky about whom I would work for full-time after college.

My first full-time position after graduation, was with a husband wife owned firm in DC.

These two people put the War of the Roses to shame with daily yelling and fighting.
It took me less than two weeks to start looking for another job. I found “M” had an ad as a sole practitioner and figured if he worked alone there wouldn’t be anyone else to fight with, so I answered the ad while at work.

He called me within an hour. I met him in his office a few hours later during my lunch break. When I sat in the chair in his office (that he specifically led me to) the bottom practically fell out! I later learned he did that on purpose and only respected people who said something about their asses falling through. LOL Well, I did. I literally said, “Jesus! If you can’t afford a better chair, I don’t think you can afford me”. 

I began working for him the following day after giving my resignation to the fighting couple I’d been working with.  Oh, and telling them exactly why!

I was replacing a woman who worked for “M” almost 15 years who wasn’t a paralegal but a kick-ass secretary. She never told me how difficult he would be, but I discovered it soon thereafter.
“M” was a stress-junkie!

He would wait until the very last minute before a court appearance to ask for a case law to be researched and printed or a pleading to be typed. He would then stand there tapping his toe on the hardwood floor breathing like an impatient child.
I later learned that standing up to him was the only way to properly deal with him. I also learned he liked it that way…typical trial attorney-loved a good argument.

He was an appellate attorney and civil/federal practitioner who also practiced family law as an aside.  I’d already worked in family law for 2 years and he saw that as a way to make some money without doing much work, so I basically only worked on his domestic cases. 

But his main income came from his criminal clients who were already convicted and sentenced. Many of them for 20+ to life. People think anyone who defends drug dealers and murderers are scum. He thought they were people who’d made bad choices, but he felt stronger that the courts were over-zealous in their sentencing which led to over-crowding. 

“M” had good qualities. He was a pioneer in the fight to make medical marijuana legal on the state and federal levels. Long before I came around, he was lobbying for this.
He also fought hard to make first time offenders of non-violent crimes’ sentences lighter and fought against the over-crowding and over-sentencing in the US. 

He was passionate about this.
The United States imprisons more people than any other country in the world he would say, and many of them are not violent.

He felt that one mistake shouldn’t ruin a person’s whole life.

I mostly worked on his domestic cases as I was equipped to do so, and his people skills were let’s just say, in need of fine-tuning.  I first quit working for “M” shortly after he came into my office to spin a defense he was bantering about. The defendant was an alleged child molester.  Funnily enough, it was a call from a phone sex operator who called the FBI about the guy that got him arrested.

But it was the last straw for me after all the stress he’d already served; that he would try to spin the defense of this deformed pervert and I soon left law to pursue a different choice.

I went after money in new construction which was booming in DC and the suburbs at the time with what we know as ARM loans. It was easy and cushy work.  

Four months after I left his employ, the woman I chose to replace me called to say she couldn’t take his stress-junkie behavior anymore because she was literally having heart palpitations.  She was quitting. I didn’t blame her.

One month later he called and asked me to work with him long-distance or ‘online’ as we put it back then and to work on his large cases because he was only doing consulting work from then on. “M” could barely type, and he hated paperwork! 

The money would pad a move out of state that I was about to make, so I agreed.

Later, as I learned it would be difficult to find a job in law in a different state since law is so state specific…so I went back into new home sales and then later on the market crashed.  

Losing a “special” relationship

“M” was a liberal and an American University Grad.  Long before there was a George Floyd, he was involved in suing a police department and city administration for the shooting of an unarmed black man [in the back] and the city administrations cover-up.
We worked together without having to speak much for over 20 yrs.  It was the best way to go, and we were successful in some big cases.  

I loved doing good things for society and those who’ve been harmed by systems.

I am justice minded and it will not go away. It is ingrained into my personality, and I will miss working with him and for him. He wasn’t perfect but he set about every day to see justice as the equal and balanced lady she is meant to be. 

Changes and Life Decisions

In 2007/8 during the market crash, I found phone sex after working in new home sales for a few years and after suing a company I worked for who screwed me out of 80k in commissions.  I’d just moved to a new state and was starting over…. again.  Finding a job in law just wasn’t going to happen since no one was working and jobs were scarce. 

2016 Phone Sex Training and Listing Design 

When I began offering women advice and training it was an attempt to create ‘good’ phone sex operators.

I love learning and teaching and have continued to pursue education throughout my life. During my time in real estate, I was sent by the company I worked for on many sales and marketing seminars where I learned from the best in the industry. 

I made many mistakes and tried many things as a new phone sex operator.  I tried many different platforms and characters.  Some worked, some didn’t. 

In my 15 years in phone sex, I have heard many times from callers that a lot of women on NF are just bad at phone sex. It’s the assumptions that hurt them. So, I felt my experience would be fun and a helpful side hustle.

I want good operators who will keep the customers we have on the site and keep them from going elsewhere.
In 2011 I ran my own #800 business with 3 other operators, and I found that new girls just didn’t understand how weird the calls/callers can be.  I trained my operators as I only hired newbies with no bad habits and no conflicts of interest.  But after doing the work for a few months and making fairly good money-they would want to leave because of the mental and relationship challenges that phone sex involves.

JUSTICE MINDED AND WANTING TO HELP
Doing what’s right is in my DNA. I am not perfect by any means, and I continue to pursue personal accountability and responsibility for my actions and learn why I do them and to change course if they are not serving me.
That’s being human.

TROLLING OR HELPING?
Can we all stop being so self-righteous and not pretend that we do not look at each other’s adverts. We are curious creatures. If you’re competitive like me, you look to see who you are competing against before you spend your hard-earned money.

Still others look to use someone else’s witty or interesting copywriting and some look to get ideas but end up using their own.  

But the truth is…WE ALL LOOK! I know this because I see how many ‘flirts’ click on my listings when I feature one.  Forget it if you feature on the front page.  You’ll get loads of clicks from other flirts! LOL
I also have had many women click on my website buttons and don’t buy nor respond to my follow-up emails.

Most of you are legitimately looking for listing design help or buttons to use or wanting to learn something. No problem, I wouldn’t spend many hours creating and advertising help for flirts/PSO’s and escorts unless I wanted you to reach out to me!

I have no idea why this person said I “blocked and evaded” since I was the one blocked? LOL But, see we all ‘troll’ as it were.  She spent over 15 minutes on this website.  It wasn’t a slip.

 

I suspect she was trolling me (see, we all do it) or looking for something nefarious as she spent a long time on my website.  Maybe she wants to do the same training side hustle but doesn’t know how to start and needed to see my work?

To quote her: ERGO, I suspect we could ALL be called trolls if looking at others in your business is trolling.  What can be ‘marketing research’ could be called trolling if you get caught.  I am big on taking personal responsibility, so I apologize for my actions in regards: naming and shaming.  I was angry and let that get the best of me.  I have decided social media makes it too easy for me to lash out and I’ve decided I need to do some inner work to make changes.  That’s how I roll.  How about you?

WATCHING AND LEARNING

So, can we all stop pretending we don’t look at each other’s listings?

I could insert featured clicks results here with flirt clicks but I won’t.

NF isn’t monitoring the site as far as I can tell. 
Of course, when they made changes to their TOS terms of service, we were given very short warning and our (money makers’) listings were suspended and noticed.

I guarantee you that anyone advertising no limits ‘any subject’ or “no subject is off limit’s’ means her phone will ring not yours.  It’s not always because customers want grotesque or illegal things but because they don’t know if what they think IS weird or off-limits. 

Men feel guilty enough about their constant sexual thoughts but when they call phone sex lines, they want to feel they won’t’ be judged. Many women do this on the phone vs their listings because they KNOW the rules and think they won’t’ be found out.

Otherwise, her listing would say that right?

I am in the process of doing some personal work and making life changes.  I know there are a few flirts who watch and report violations. It affects us all when these things go unnoticed and many violators are very aware what they are doing so when you get a call asking to off-site or for under-age roleplays or similar, you have no one to blame but them.

And, as far as social media goes, after losing “M” and my big life change (he was in the middle of a 4 yr battle against a police department and a huge case) and the change of circumstances by working for a new attorney and new paralegals I only know via email or text or on Skype, I simply have lost interest in helping others.

I will still see the blacklist comments and I do hope you all appreciate the information provided on the site.  But, as far as helping out in other ways, I am less inclined.

But I may be back when the dust settles.
C.